Just thought that this little piece of paper has some good advice.

I just had a friend find out that he has a brain tumor and it is cancerous. Now I know most teens and young women do not what to hear or talk about such things. However, I just want you to know that life is so fragile. IT is to be sifted through and enjoyed. Fighting and judging your fellow "sister" is not a good way to savor your days. Remember that you really are amazing. Okay some days more than others, but you are.

Please use every moment to laugh and love and relax and run and dance and sing and just chill out. Oh and work hard to become a better you. You have to be a good catch to get a good catch. And you must be a good friend to have any hope of maybe having a few good friends. So snap out of teenage fog and grab life today. I promise you will not regret it. And even if you do have some small regrets, (or big one) so what...you probably learned something from those last mistakes. So that is always a good thing.

Now it is time to move on!!! And start dancing or singing or playing with your dog or cat...etc, etc....Love you all!!

What about comparing?

We just visited about comparing yourself to others. One way was to say you are better than some. The other is to say that some are better than you. Neither one is good for you. Take the "I am better then her route". You get a feeling of superiority and that makes you feel good temporarily until you really look in the mirror and decide again today that you are not that good. The feeling of superiority is short lived and we know that "pride comes before the fall". You will fall hard from up high. There are many reasons not to compare yourself as better then other girls, one very good one is that Jesus never did it. If you are a believer (and if you are not), what is the problem with treating all the people that you meet with love and dignity. (Now, don't go and say, then why to we fight wars and stuff? War should be a last resort. We can talk about this subject later. OK) I am only talking here about your behavior towards all the people in your life. If you are a believer you should know that God just wants us to do this! And if you are not a believer, what harm does it do to act kindly to your fellow man? You will never, feel bad being pleasant no matter what. People, respond so well to nice. It's crazy.

The other side of this coin is that you feel less then good about yourself compared to other girls. I think this is where most of us struggle. You are either, to fat, to thin, have zits, hair is to short, to curly..you get the picture. You are so wonderfully made. It is so clichue to say that there is only one of you. But there is only one of you. I was a heavy child, ok very chubby when I was younger. I also had a very thin, pretty, older sister. That comes with automatic comparison built in, automatically!!! You get my drift. So I know about comparing yourself to a prettier someone. Please hear me when I say you are amazing! You are! And the beauty about finding out who you are can be so fun. You do not need to compare yourself to anyone. Once I stopped worrying about what others thought, I was able to just be myself. And great things started to happen! I blossomed into me.

My favorite thing to do is encourage young girls to not fret so much. Study, work out, eat right, laugh do fun things. But don't worry about how you look so much. You can only do that for say Prom or a singing competition. Something special. So Lets talk. If you are struggling with labels you have placed on yourself let me know what it is. Maybe I will have an idea or two.